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Vulnerable Truth Telling
By Brian Self
Are you ready to take the next step in your life and experience more true freedom?
I believe that deep down inside we all ache and hunger to be honest with ourselves on a personal heart and soul level. After just recently spending seven days at the Enheartenment retreat in Sonoma I am now feeling called to share myself in ways I have never done before. This to me is vulnerable truth telling... putting it all on the line for truth, authenticity and love. Facing and embracing my fear that you won't like me anymore or that you might even ask to be removed from my mailing list. So be it... if this ends up being so for any of you.
During this retreat I was able to really feel into my truth and the voice of Maker inside me so loud and clearly I was blown away. Many times it was not easy and I wanted to run away from the rage and sadness that came up for me while fear was right in my face. I decided to face the dragon rather than running away from it. When we face the dragon it burns up all the books and new age fluff we tend to carry around with us so we can get right down into the experience of what is and the moment, rather than our ideas of what it should be or what so-and-so guru says.
Did you know that we spend 80% of our lives running away from ourselves and others? We put more energy into the escape than we do truly feeling and living into our lives and relationships. The energy we are squandering is the energy we need to heal and transform our lives. We are all going to die one day so you might as well stop putting almost all your life into the escape that has always been inescapable from the moment your were born.
The first couple of days in the retreat I felt triggered and restless and then I began to feel very clear from all the emotional release I experienced. Many days I spent weeping... just feeling the feelings I had been ignoring for so long.
When the storm passed and clarity arose I found myself asking to be removed from email lists I have been on for quite sometime out of obligation or fear that these people would not like me if I really spoke my truth and told them I was just not interested in their work or that it did not resonate with me anymore. I also found myself being more clear and direct with others than ever. Telling my truth and holding the space for others to speak their truth too.
Life is too short and precious to spend our lives in codependent dramas that are based on fear, low self worth, lies, and yes... even those little white lies. I feel that the business world is no exception. Many of us don't even realize we are doing this or we are so conditioned that we think this is normal. Let us begin to process through or relationships with ourselves and others so we can begin to move forward in our lives. This is a magical process that unfolds for those of us that are dedicated to looking at ourselves through the eyes of the truth that is in our heart feelings.
I struggled for a bit while considering sharing this because another had told me it was not good business to make yourself vulnerable and fully open. I took this in for a moment and then realized that vulnerable truth telling is in full alignment with my commitment to doing honest business as a spiritual path. Now I'm not saying it is always easy for me and that I always speak everything that is there for me. Many times I find my truth after a specific encounter or have a realization later, where I then bring it to the table after I am clear and know my truth. I am also finding that there are certain areas of my life that are easier to speak my vulnerable truth. The areas I have deep wounding or unfinished business are the real raw and sensitive areas that usually take some facilitation or help from another who knows how to hold the space for me to face and feel these terrifying places that tend to get buried because they are so painful.
I hope that this little piece of my heart may inspire you in your personal and business world where there is such a hunger for vulnerability, truth and integrity!